1. What they’re going to wear and where they’re going to get it. If you are automatically thinking you’re going to wear a tuxedo you might want to revisit that plan; or not. Whereas wearing a tuxedo might seem to be the norm, many men prefer wearing a suit, either one they already own or buying a new one. The best thing about buying a suit is that you can wear it for years after the wedding. The best thing about wearing a tuxedo sometimes is that if you have enough men in the wedding party often the groom gets his tuxedo for free. These are decisions that need to be weighed before him making one.
2. Who’s going to be the best man and who are the ushers. The best man is definitely a hard decision to make if you have a lot of friends. A decision that many men make, yet can save a lot of grief, is to take the father as the best man. Also, once you and the bride have decided how large the wedding party is going to be, it becomes important to make sure you pick the right friends to be groomsmen. Understanding the groomsmen have a special role in the wedding, your drinking buddies and might not always fit the criteria needed to carry these duties out, so you will want to make these decisions very carefully.
3. How much participation needs to take place whenever something that costs money is concerned. The truth is that most men would rather leave this up to the bride. The reality is that if you leave it up to the bride, you could wake up one day and a lot of that with no one to blame but yourself for not participating in the process. There needs to be a balance between what couples want for their wedding and what they can afford. The biggest thing couples fight about after they get married is money, so if some of those decisions can be avoided early on it’s best to work as a couple to make sure you don’t overextend yourself.
4. Who to invite on his side and his reasons. This isn’t as easy as it may seem. On the surface you would think you only have to worry about your friends and that’s it. But you’re going to have to worry about your relatives, including some you may not know all that well and some you don’t get along with for the peace of the family. You might also have to worry about certain people you work with, such as your peers, your employees, and some of the people you report to. As much as you may hate thinking about this, sometimes their political ramifications that you might have to deal with later on if you don’t at least extend an invitation. But don’t go out of your way inviting guests that you don’t want at your wedding; after all, it’s your day to enjoy.
5. The gifts for the groomsmen and best man at the reception dinner. This can be as simple or as complicated as you want to make it. You can buy everybody the same gift and make it easy on yourself. Or you can think really hard about what each of the people who are participating in your wedding lights and then find a way to get each of them something special. Don’t wait until the last minute for this; it should be something you start thinking about as soon as you decide who’s going to be in your wedding party.