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Think about it. You’ve been married for a few years now, and you sit down one day and start thinking about what you might have changed if you had the opportunity to do your wedding over. Maybe you’re getting married a second time and want to do things a little bit differently.
It’s a question posed to many couples, and it could serve as something that couples who are thinking about getting married should think about. After all, those who don’t learn from the lessons history offers are doomed to repeat it; so I’ve heard.
The number one regret of most people in looking back at their wedding day is how much money they spent. Some couples spend so much money on their wedding that they’re paying for it years later. Sometimes the debt is so high that they can’t even qualify for things such as a car or mortgage because they still can’t afford it. The thought of getting married can sometimes take away a person’s common sense as to whether they can afford everything they want or not.
The next regret, strange as it may seem for most guys, is that they allowed too many outside influences to eliminate things they wanted. Most of the blame goes on the mother’s of both the bride and the groom. Brides might have some idea of who they want to invite to the wedding, but the mothers will add people because they’re the ones who determine which family members are “must” invites. Sometimes fathers will give input if the family happens to be wealthy, but that’s not always the case. Mothers will also give “advice” on things such as the wedding dress, the reception, and almost everything else. It’s unsolicited, but has to be taken more into account than advice from anyone else; after all, they are the mothers.
The final big regret relates to the first regret. Many brides and grooms wished that they had even more money so they could have had more of what they really wanted. Grooms usually wanted more for the honeymoon, being able to plan for bigger and better things up front, since no one is sure what kind of money they might receive on their wedding day. Brides usually wanted more of everything else; more flowers, more food choices, more limousines, more flash, etc. Even those brides who seemed to have it all wanted more things.
That last one is the one regret, however, where most couples agree that it was probably best that they were limited. After all, look at what they’re still trying to pay off.
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Wedding Day Regrets
Second Wedding Ideas
Getting Remarried in Style
