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His And Hers Weddings

Friday, January 15th, 2010
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His Wedding Party

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Most of us have heard of couples getting married while on some exotic vacation, or maybe eloping, and deciding to have a second wedding when they get back home. There’s a growing move these days for some couples to have two weddings, but for a much different reason than the above.

As the economy has changed, many people are finding it hard to travel as much as in the past. This means that when invited to a wedding that’s out of town, they might have to make a decision as to whether or not they can afford to go. The complication is that the bride and groom might not be from the same hometown, possibly having their families and friends living across the country from each other. It could even be them living across the country from each other.

Her Wedding Party

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What they’re doing is having two weddings, one in each person’s hometown, and absorbing the travel cost themselves instead of having everyone else do it. Sure, some friends and family might want to be at both weddings, but that’s on them. The rest of the wedding is planned for the friends and family in the community.

This does have some complications to it, naturally. For one, both the bride and groom might not have as much input into what happens at one or the other wedding. For instance, if the bride and groom now live in the same town, but the groom’s family lives elsewhere, most of the planning will have to be done long distance, and someone else will have to be relied upon to handle many of the details.

Also, having one wedding can be costly, thus having two might seem extraordinary. For families with means this isn’t a complication. For everyone else, that might be hard to swallow. What usually happens is that the bride’s wedding is the more expensive and formal affair, while the groom’s wedding is a bit more open and free form, not as expensive, and probably not held in a large wedding hall. As a matter of fact, many times the bride won’t travel with her wedding gown for the second wedding, preferring to wear a nice dress instead.

It’s a unique way to honor both families and to allow more people to take part in a couple’s special days.

See more:
For some couples, two wedding ceremonies are better than one
One marriage, two weddings
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A Wedding Do-Over Thought

Monday, January 4th, 2010
Second Wedding Thoughts

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Think about it. You’ve been married for a few years now, and you sit down one day and start thinking about what you might have changed if you had the opportunity to do your wedding over. Maybe you’re getting married a second time and want to do things a little bit differently.

It’s a question posed to many couples, and it could serve as something that couples who are thinking about getting married should think about. After all, those who don’t learn from the lessons history offers are doomed to repeat it; so I’ve heard.

The number one regret of most people in looking back at their wedding day is how much money they spent. Some couples spend so much money on their wedding that they’re paying for it years later. Sometimes the debt is so high that they can’t even qualify for things such as a car or mortgage because they still can’t afford it. The thought of getting married can sometimes take away a person’s common sense as to whether they can afford everything they want or not.

The next regret, strange as it may seem for most guys, is that they allowed too many outside influences to eliminate things they wanted. Most of the blame goes on the mother’s of both the bride and the groom. Brides might have some idea of who they want to invite to the wedding, but the mothers will add people because they’re the ones who determine which family members are “must” invites. Sometimes fathers will give input if the family happens to be wealthy, but that’s not always the case. Mothers will also give “advice” on things such as the wedding dress, the reception, and almost everything else. It’s unsolicited, but has to be taken more into account than advice from anyone else; after all, they are the mothers.

The final big regret relates to the first regret. Many brides and grooms wished that they had even more money so they could have had more of what they really wanted. Grooms usually wanted more for the honeymoon, being able to plan for bigger and better things up front, since no one is sure what kind of money they might receive on their wedding day. Brides usually wanted more of everything else; more flowers, more food choices, more limousines, more flash, etc. Even those brides who seemed to have it all wanted more things.

That last one is the one regret, however, where most couples agree that it was probably best that they were limited. After all, look at what they’re still trying to pay off.

See more:
Wedding Day Regrets
Second Wedding Ideas
Getting Remarried in Style

Reception Food? Go Italian, Part One

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009
wedding reception with italian food

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I live in the Northeast, so I’m not sure everyone across the country suffers from the same thing.  We go to weddings to share in the joy of our friends getting married, and then we head over to the reception hoping for a good meal.  Yet, when it’s time for the meal, we find that it’s the same, tired food that we always get at a wedding.

Don’t get me wrong.  Some of it can be quite tasty.  But how many times do we need to see ziti, baked chicken, polish sausage with peppers and roast beef sitting in its own liquid (oh yeah, au jus) before we stop looking forward to going to receptions?  No, cake just isn’t enough to get over the horror of facing the same food time and time again.

Well, ziti gives us an idea for the possibility of something different for wedding food.  Why not go all out and go Italian across the board?

The reason people have ziti and the rest at wedding is that it’s relatively inexpensive food that can feed a lot of people.  But it’s boring and staid; probably, if you’re in other areas of the country and this isn’t your typical wedding fare, you’re probably in agreement with me that you keep being subjected to the same food.

An Italian meal wedding would change things up some.  Let’s start with the pasta.  I hate ziti because it’s almost always too mushy.  It might be because it’s been sitting in that pan for a day or two.  Instead of going that route, why not be more creative?  There are two different ways you could present the food.

One, you could hire a few people who set up their little stoves.  Then you allow your guests to go up and request the items they want to mix together, and the cooks heat everything up while your guests stand there waiting for it.  The food would be inexpensive, but paying for the cooks might cost you.  Still, the food would be fresh, and it would add something different to your wedding.

Two, you could still set it all up on a long table, where guests would come by and put their own meals together.  It’s easy to have someone continually replace up to three different pasta types, such as spaghetti, macaroni, and bow ties.  Then you can have three or four sauces already mixed together and being kept heated in some fashion, such as tomato sauce, alfredo, bolognaise, and whatever your fourth sauce might be.  Add a couple of different cheeses, spices, and small vegetables, and every person has something a bit different.  You can also have big bowls or crockpots of meatballs, maybe two styles of meatballs.

The thing about having this kind of wedding is that there are all types of choices of pasta, so you could go crazy with it, and it still doesn’t cost all that much.  As long as the pasta doesn’t get too old, and it won’t initially, your guests will enjoy it.  Even if it’s a sit down meal, the same type of thing could occur, as you give your guests a checklist at every table of what they’d like, and it could easily be put together and brought to them.  You can even still have ziti on the list if you’d like, but you can also add other meats such as chicken or pork, even shrimp if you’re in the spending mood.

There’s more in the second half of this article, so check it out.

See more:
Wedding Reception Food Ideas
Wedding Food Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive
Eat, Dring & Be Marry!

Wedding In The Face Of Tragedy

Thursday, September 24th, 2009
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Photo Credit: www.CNN.com

Last week, a couple took a very unique step in their lives.  They got married at the funeral of their child, who was killed in a car accident.  The child had always wanted his parents to get married, as they’d lived together without it since he’d been born.  It was decided to grant his last wish at his funeral, with all the family members present.

Although that type of thing might seem extreme, weddings in the face of tragedy happen all the time.  Most of the time one of the wedding couple is going through something critical where they may not survive, and thus the couples get married so either the spouse will have some protection once one of them passes away, or so the child of the dying spouse will have someone to legally take care of them.

Sometimes the tragedy is occurring during the wedding, and there have to be quick decisions made as to what to do.  Storms have made some weddings hazardous, even if the weddings were happening indoors.  Snowstorms during winter weddings have created havoc for some couples who dared test the elements.  Hurricanes and fires have been other things couples have had to deal with on their wedding day.

Lucky for Americans, one thing we haven’t had to deal with are terrorist groups deciding to use a wedding to promote their political agendas.  There have been many couples who have had to think hard and long about whether or not to have a full, religious ceremony in light of such worries, or to get married against tradition by having closed ceremonies where it’s only the wedding couple and the person marrying them.

How couples handle these tragedies is important in making a determination as to how well they’ll handle being married long term.  If you ever watch talk shows, occasionally you’ll see a bride who still suffers from memories of a tragic wedding, or something negative that went on.  Elsewhere, you’ll read stories where other brides decided to roll with the punches and just get through it all, realizing later that what was important about the day was the joining of two people in matrimony, and everything else was pretty much just for show.

Couples might have to think quickly when tragedies occur near their wedding day, not only about themselves but about others who might be coming to the wedding.  It’s never easy, but it’s an adult decision that has to be made.  And, in the face of it all, who can think of a tragic reason where a wedding couple has to make a tough decision than when it concerns the death and funeral of a child?

See more:
Parents Honor Dead Son’s Wish, Wed at End of His Funeral
Couple get Married During their Seven-Year-Old Son’s Funeral Service
1 Wedding, A Funeral; Son’s Wish Granted